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Showing posts with label Pregnancy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Pregnancy. Show all posts

Saturday, November 17, 2012

One of the many benefits of charting your cycles

I know it has been a long time since I have blogged. Lets just say I have been preoccupied this pregnancy . . . with things like contractions, shingles, kids with chicken pox etc. Ya, great fun!! Basically the bottom line is . . . having been pregnant 7 times in 11 yrs, and nursing non-stop for over 12 yrs (tandem non stop for over 10) . . . my body is saying . . . “hello, pay attention to ME!!!” And with all these little ones, I so forget to do that!

It’s all good though, I’m feeling much better now ;0)

Me on my EDD with baby #7 (11-12-12)
 But to the topic at hand. Today is my estimated due date! (EDD) Or wait, maybe I am 12 days post dates?  (I'll get to that later).

 I have had 2 babies come before and 4 after my EDD . . . usually within a week either way. With all but my first I charted my cycles, including taking my temp each morning, so I knew exactly when I ovulated each time (with my first I was only charting fertile fluid, so I could only make a good guess at ovulation, which I suspected to be a bit late).

Besides knowing exactly when you ovulate . . . when to "try" to get pregnant or when to "avoid" if you don't want to get pregnant . . .  there are many other benefits to charting your cycles some of which can be found HERE.

One benefit is that if you are pregnant, you will know exactly when you ovulated, and thus can base your EDD on ovulation (which can help prevent intervention or invasive procedures). When a newly pregnant woman goes in to her midwife or OB one of the first questions asked is “what was the date of your last period?”  Your estimated due date is calculated based on the fact that most women ovulate on day 14 of their cycle (your cycle beginning on the first day of your period). They use this nifty little wheel and calculate when they believe you ovulated/conceived, and when you are due, based on the first day of your last period.

But guess what . . . women are all different (wow really?)  Each cycle is different. Even a woman who normally has very regular cycles can have a funky cycle where ovulation is delayed for one reason or another. So sometimes this ‘educated guess’ on EDD can be way off.

So what is the harm in that? Baby is going to come when they are ready right? Ya, of course they will!! And if we were all laid back and just trusted babies to come when they were ready, then knowing your EDD wouldn’t even really matter period. But in our society today, there are problems that can arise if your EDD is way off.

Early in your pregnancy it can cause unnecessary ultrasound to try to date your pregnancy more accurately (especially if you are unsure of when your period was or if your cycles are especially long or irregular). Some of us like to avoid ultrasound if possible. Or if you have a routine ultrasound in early pregnancy anyway (which some do) you could be told that the baby is not growing right, or that you have a blight ovum or whatever (when in reality you are simply not as far along as previously thought).  And that has caused not only undue stress and sorrow, but even unfortunately, unnecessary D&C of a perfectly viable pregnancy.

Of course many places don’t do early ultrasound and many moms choose not to have one. So for those moms, later in pregnancy it could mean that you are exposed to unnecessary worry or intervention. If you are thought to be past your due date, you may have more monitoring or be induced for ‘post dates’, or if you have a baby born early it could be more premature than expected.

From my own personal experience, for most of my pregnancies, I ovulated between days 12-17. Considering they usually base ovulation on day 14, my due date calculated by the "pregnancy wheel" was only a few days off from my real, accurate due date. However with my 2nd pregnancy, I didn’t ovulate till day 22, which means that my real due date was a full WEEK after what would have been estimated for me. I don’t do early ultrasound, and was planning a homebirth anyway. That baby (my girl) was born at around 41 wks. Had we not had an accurate EDD, we would have thought I was a full week further along than I really was, which would have made the waiting hard for me! And were I giving birth in the hospital, it may have meant that I was induced for going too far past my EDD (it all depends on your Dr, but many don't like to see mom go more than a few days post dates before they start talking induction).

Fast forward to this pregnancy, #7. For this baby I didn’t ovulate till day 26 of my cycle!! Ya, no kidding, it was that late!! It happens and it actually isn't super uncommon. Can you imagine? So if I didn’t chart my cycles, take my temp etc. and know the exact day of conception, then instead of coming on here and writing “hey, todays my EDD” I would likely be bemoaning “woe is me, I am 12 days post dates, when is this baby going to come?”

Lets just say I am pretty happy that God designed our bodies in a way that we have these obvious clues to how things work, so that we know what is going on.  And thankfully He gave us the knowledge to figure it out and use it to our advantage!!

UPDATE - Baby #7 was born 2 days after my EDD based on ovulation.  So a full 2 weeks after the pregnancy wheel would have said was my EDD.  So, again, had I not known when I ovulated I would have thought I had a pretty small (7.2, by far my smallest baby) baby for being born 2 wks after my EDD.  For what it's worth, when my midwife friend checked her out she said that she didn't look early or late, all signs showed she was right on time . . . . EXACTLY!!! 

There is a ton of info online about charting your cycles. But for starters, check out www.tcoyf.com (the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility is an amazing resource and I recommend every woman read it . . . it is actually good for men too).

Friday, March 4, 2011

It's a BOY!! and baby/pregnancy pictures

Yes, another boy!  That makes 5 boys (and 1 girl).  
 Born unassisted at home in the water (dad and most of the kids were right there, the little ones and Grammy missed it by less than a minute . . . though granted, after pushing for over 2 hrs I didn't give them much 'heads up' when it was finally time, so only the fastest ones made it in the room LOL!!).
My earliest baby, born at 39 wks exactly.  Weighing 8.4 and 22 1/4" long with a 14 inch head.  I had wanted to go late but thank goodness I didn't!!  He would have been over 9lbs!  No name yet, we'll figure that one out soon.


I should be able to get the birth story out within a week.  I had been planning on splitting up this blog into 2.  One for the opinion/personal stuff and then keeping this one for just the Kozy related stuff where I can put all the updates and new stuff (because we have new stuff I have neglected to post about).  So I am thinking if I can get my act together I can start the new blog with the birth story (I have already duplicated most of my non-kozy posts from here, over there)  We'll see.  But I'll let y'all know.

Anyway I had this whole post planned out with all my pregnancy pictures.  I was going to post it yesterday at 39 wks but . . well, I had a baby instead. LOL.  So I am going to go ahead and post all the pictures since I already had them downloaded and in here ready to post.

So I had a professional photographer come over on Tues (just 2 days before he was born) to take pregnancy pictures.  It was FREE because she wanted more photos for her portfolio . . . score for me!!



 I am 38.5 wks in these . . . little did I know that in 2 days . . . 

Here are pictures of my belly/baby growing.  I was trying to be really good to take pictures consistently this time, with the same clothes and the same pose.  It is so cool being able to go back and see the body changing, AND to compare my body/belly from this last pregnancy to the others.

12 wks

16 wks

20 wks

24 wks

28 wks

32 wks

36 wks

38 wks

Saturday, September 4, 2010

Why I have been MIA most of the summer!

Aug 29,2010
12 1/2 wks with baby #6

With the 24/7 icky feeling (though thankfully a bit better than with the others) and the fact that most of my blogging and computer stuff is done after the kids are asleep, and the past 2 mo and that I have NOT been able to stay awake much past them (either that or I felt too sick to do work) the blog and many e-mails have been neglected!!

I am 13 wks though and starting to feel better and get some energy back so hopefully I can make up for it now!  My 'due date' is March 10th so I figure . . . sometime in March.  My edd's have been based on conception, and so far my babies have been 10, 6, 4, 3, days "late" and only 1 was 3 days "early" (not in that order).  Funny thing is they have all ranged from 7.12 to 8.4 lb (within 1/2 lb or so of each other) and have been from 21-22 3/4".  So not a huge amount of variation in when they decide to come or what size they are, LOL!! 

We don't use doppler or ultrasound unless I feel it is medically warranted, so I haven't heard the heartbeat, which was also the case with my last 3 kids. So it is hard for me to feel totally comfortable telling others till I feel regular movement or can pick up the heartbeat with a fetoscope (usually between 16-20 wks).  So I just have to trust that all is well and do what I can to keep track of how things are progressing.  I know my uterus has been growing just fine, which is a great sign.  I could feel it above my pubic bone by 6 wks this time and now it is at my belly button!!  This is MANY weeks higher than normal, but that is what happens when your uterus has been stretched out so many times! It was similar with my last 3 too (with #5 I could feel it above my pubic bone by 8 wks, so with each one it seems to be a bit sooner).  Just knowing it is growing at a regular rate is reassuring.  So that, and the fact that by 12 wks I could feel some movement at times when I poke around on my uterus (which I also noticed with the last 3) makes me hope that all is well.

Planning another homebirth of course, probably UC, but I like to play it by ear and decide during labor if I feel God leading me to call my midwife friend or not (so far the last 3 times I haven't felt like I needed her).  It is just SO nice to have that option and a blessing to have supportive friends.

Sooo, hopefully things can get back to normal a bit more around here since I am starting to feel a bit more normal too. There are so many things I want to blog about, I am just so long winded that it takes me forever do to a post, LOL!!  I have also considered breaking off and splitting the blog into 2.  Having just the Kozy part for Kozy related stuff and then another blog for all my other stuff.  If/when I do that though I'll let y'all know and make it easy to transition.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Make your Own Pregnant Belly Cast



 Casts of all of my pregnant bellies, from left to right.  00, 02, 04, 07, 09

I have had a few people ask me how to do these so I figured since I have done like 7 of them I'd put up a tutorial.  Well OK, so I have only really done 1 (for a friend).  Charlie (my hubby) technically did the other 6 (2 with my first pregnancy and one with each of the other 4).
I am so, so glad we had the forethought and took the time to make these with each pregnancy.  I think they are just beautiful and what a wonderful memento of your pregnant form!  Mine are still raw and unfinished as you can see in the pictures, but some day I will trim the edges and paint them.  I don't have any pictures of the casting process, because there was never anyone around to take them (and we usually have very messy hands).


My first cast, done in 2000.  I have applied a layer of plaster to the outside of this one
My last cast, done it 2009 is in the back

What is a belly cast
For those of you who have never heard of belly casting before . . . as you can see in the pictures, a belly cast is a cast of your pregnant form.  It is usually done with plaster gauze strips.  You can buy them in craft stores like Michaels or Hobby Lobby or online.  One name brand is Rigid Wrap (the brand I have always used).  I have heard of some people who used actual cast (like the medical stuff you use if you break your arm). and you can make your own apparently by using fabric and plaster of paris (never done it so I won't give directions how) but it is just easier to buy the plaster strips premade for casting.  There are also commercial kits available online (google search for them) but they tend to be expensive and you can gather the supplies yourself and save some money.  You can do it yourself for usually under $20.  Some people even offer the service of belly casting (I actually considered it before starting Kozy) and will come to your home and do it for you.


Why do a belly cast

I think a belly cast is an amazing work of art!  You are only pregnant with each individual child once.  When you are pregnant your body takes on that unique shape, the shape of creating and growing life.  It is a precious time and many people want to remember what they looked like in a 3D form.  It can also be a memorable keepsake.  I take pictures of my babies in their cast after they are born, and I put their footprints inside where they used to kick me the most.  It is something I will cherish forever.
You can paint them, and mount them as a work of art, or you can keep them raw and keep them tucked away for only yourself and your kids to enjoy.  Either way, everyone I have ever talked to has always been really glad that they made one.




How to make your own belly cast

Things to consider

When do you want to do your cast?  I like the biggest belly possible, so with all of mine I wait as long as possible.  With Xian I did it at 38 and 40 wks.  With the others I as either in early labor (I even woke Charlie up at 3am to do the cast since I was in labor) or after my EDD.  However, I usually have very long labors and they slowly build, so I can wait.  If you have fast labors (or haven't been in labor before) or have ANY concern about going into labor before you are able to do your cast, you may want to play it safe and shoot for 38 wks. (or earlier if you have early labors) You can always buy more material and do one around 40 if you make it that far (there can be a pretty good belly difference in 38 and 40 wks).  If you don't mind not having the biggest belly possible then anytime after 36 wks would probably work great!


How do you want your cast to look?  You can do just the belly or the breasts and belly.  Some will stop just above the breasts and under the belly, but others will go all the way up to the neck and down to include part of the thighs.  Remember that you can trim and shape your cast afterwords (so far I have only done that with 1 of mine. . . Pipers in the picture at top, 2nd to the left)  But I plan to do it with them all eventually.  You can also include your arms/hands in the cast..  If you want to have your hand on your belly you would include your arm in the cast.  If you have someone else helping you (besides your husband, who has always done mine) then maybe your husband would want to include his hand while someone else casts your belly.   I did one when pg with Xian with Charlies hand on my belly . . . which was difficult since it was just the 2 of us there The variations are endless!  You can see pictures of various ideas for casts HERE.

What position do you want to be in?  Standing produces, IMO, the best looking cast, but standing for that length of time (20 minutes minimum) unable to move is often very hard when you are very pregnant (believe me, I know, I did it in early labor with like 3 of them, LOL!!).  Lying down would be most comfy but it really distorts the belly and breasts.  Sitting would work but realize that will distort it too and may make casting the lower belly hard.  I think ideally, if you can find a tall stool that you can prop yourself on that would work best.  I usually just lean up against the wall.  You will want to make sure you feel good, have eaten, are not tired etc so you will have energy to stand there.  With Piper I thought I was going to pass out, but with the other 4, I did fine.


roll of plaster gauze

Materials needed
  • Plaster gauze strips.  You can buy these at craft stores like Michaels or Hobby Lobby, one name is Rigid wrap but there are other brand names as well.  If you do a google search for "plaster gauze strips" you will find many places online that sell them.  Most come in rolls of 4" x 5 yds.  In that size, you will want 3-4 rolls.  If you are average size and want to do neck down to bottom of your belly then 3 rolls should work (that is what I use).  If you are larger and want to also do arms, or start higher and end lower then go with 4 rolls (or more).  If you are just doing the belly and no breasts, then 2 rolls would probably work. If you can find 8" rolls then buy at least 1 of those, it makes things go really fast and replaces 2 4" rolls.  You will cut the strips into 12" and 18" sections.  I usually cut a few smaller ones around 6" too, for around the breasts.  It is pretty easy to rip the longer pieces in 1/2 if needed while casting.
  • Lubricant.  You need to completely coat your skin so that the plaster won't stick to you.  It  will stick to any hair and hurts when it is pulled off so grease up as much as possible!! Most people recommend Petroleum Jelly, but, no thank you . . . I won't put that stuff on my skin!!  I like to use Olive Oil, I use it very generously and it is good for my skin.  I have heard of people using crisco too.
  • Drop cloth.  Or a shower curtain, newspapers, tablecloth etc.  You need something to cover the floor, chair etc. where you will be casting, because it can get messy.
  • Shallow Pan of Warm Water.  This is for wetting your gauze strips.  We use some type of baking dish usually.  Something that is wider makes dunking easier.
  • Plastic wrap or something similar.  Like I said above, the plaster sticks to hair terribly.  You can grease up enough to keep it from pulling hair on your body, but if you are doing a full belly you will be getting low enough to cover some of the hair . . . ummm . . . 'down there' if you know what I mean, LOL!!  So I cover it with some plastic wrap before putting the plaster over it just in that area.

Thrace's footprints inside his cast

 Making the cast

Casting can get pretty messy so you will want to choose a spot in the house that is easy to clean.  I usually use the kitchen or at least do it on a hard floor.  The kitchen is ideal because the counter and sink are right there and that makes for easy clean up and access to your stuff.  
Keep in mind again, that this is messy so whoever is doing the casting may want to wear old clothes (though the plaster washes out nicely) and since it drips, we are usually barefoot.
I usually strip down to my undies.
Generously coat your body in olive oil.  Do not be afraid to use a lot, the plaster WILL stick to the hairs on your body so grease up well!!  If you need to use syran wrap over your privates it should stick to the oil.  While you are doing this your helper can fill a wide, shallow bowl/dish with warm water (as per the instructions on your plaster strips).  Make sure you have your strips cut to the proper lengths mentioned above.  I lie them in stacks according to length so that Charlie can grab what he needs easily.  All of the materials should be located as close to you as possible, to cut down on the mess and make the process quicker.
Find a comfy spot and position (as mentioned above).  
Pregnant breasts are usually saggy so to make casting them easier make sure to hold your shoulders back to give them as much lift as posible.  If needed you can tape them up (I have never felt the need to do that).  I would not try to lift them to cast under them though, it won't look as good and will probably make the cast harder to remove . . . just have your helper do the best they can and stop where they meet your body.

Take a minute to plan out how you want to proceed.  Make ALL your decisions (position, how much of the body to cover) before hand.  Charlie usually takes a minute to plan out how he wants to arrange the strips and where he wants to start.  
Start casting.  Once you place the first strip on the body you will need to work very quickly as it dries very fast.  The strips can get folded when dipped, which is why a wide dish is easier to use.  Charlie dips, removes the excess water by lightly running 2 fingers down the strip, then places it on.  He usually starts around the breasts, since it is a bit more time consuming, then works on the belly.  Don't forget to work all the way around the belly to the sides of your body (which show just how large the belly is).  He covers the whole body with 1 layer, then does a 2nd layer going in the opposite direction.  Ideally you want to smoothe the plaster in after you put the strips on.  I will help him out by rubbing it in and smoothing the strips together while he places more strips on (he is not a super fast mover, he is more detailed oriented, LOL, so this saves time).  Of course there comes a point where I can no longer move to do this.  You will need to though, for the most part, stay very still during the casting process.  
After a few minutes you will start to feel the cast separate from your body, just hold still though till your helper is finished with the entire thing.  If for some reason some areas don't get a good couple layers of plaster on them, that is OK, you can go back later and reinforce it.  
Once the cast is finished you don't want to remove it until it has all hardened enough to start separating from your body.  For me, that usually happens pretty quickly.  I don't pull the cast off of me, I simply hold it and contract my skin and it pulls away from the cast.  Be prepared for the possibility that it may be uncomfortable, especially if you didn't grease up enough or missed some spots.  It is OK though, it just lasts a second.

After removing the cast I usually leave it to dry for a day or 2.  I like to ball up a couple of towels and fill the belly area with them and kind of prop it on it's side to dry.  The towels help it to keep it's shape so that it doesn't get distorted looking as it dries.  The edges are usually pretty delecate so I don't want to put too much pressure on them. 


Ever in his cast

  Now that your cast is finished

Put baby's name, birthdate, footprints inside - I like to put baby's foot prints inside the cast in the place where I typically got kicked the most, and if you can get them to cooperate, you can do handprints as well.

Take Pictures - After baby is born, it is really cool to take a picture of them inside the cast.  You look at baby and then look at the cast and think . . . there is no way they will fit inside there . . . but they always do!!  It is VERY cool.  I like to put a white blanket inside (so it blends in with the white cast) and then strip them down and ball them up and place them head down like they would have been in the womb.  Fortunately, newborns sleep so much that they usually cooperate for the pictures.

Reinforce and trim - You may choose to keep your cast raw, which is fine, but if you do you may want to at least 'tidy' it up a bit.  If it is thinning in some areas you can add more plaster gauze strips to the INSIDE to make it stronger.  You may also want to trim the rough edges.  You can just trim them to make them smoother or you can trim and angle the edges to make it more artistic looking.


Sand and Smooth - You can sand the cast to make it smoother.  After sanding if you apply a few coats of Gesso (which is like art primer) and sand again and you should get it pretty smooth look.  If you want it even smoother you can apply a thin layer of joint compound over the whole thing (you can also use it to cover any imperfections, like folded strips etc.) and sand it after it dries.  I have used plaster of paris but that will chip off if the cast moves at all.  When I get around to finishing mine, I will do a layer of joint compound, then I will sand it, and when it is as smooth as I want it,  I will then apply the primer (gesso) and then paint.

Display your cast - You can hang it on the wall by punching holes in the top corners and threading a ribbon through.  If you don't want the ribbon showing then you can drill holes lower and use wire or ribbon (kind of like a wire picture frame hanger).  You can also mount it inside a frame.  Many people like to hang them in their baby's room (if they have one) or do what I have done so far . . . just prop it up on a table, or shelf.



Thrace in his cast


Decorate Your Cast - there are ENDLESS ways you can decorate your belly cast. 
  • Paint your cast - You can paint over a smooth cast or keep it rough to add to the 'texture' (but make sure you prime it first)  You can paint your cast to match your nursery, your baby's birthdate month or astrological sign.  You can wait till your baby grows and pick a theme that matches their personality.  You can let them help you paint it.  I have even heard of people dehydratig the placenta and mixing it with paints.  You can paint a picture, a design, their name, or you can do a solid color to look like metal or stone.   After painting you can do a clear coat over top to protect it.  You can choose to make it matte or glossy.
  • Decoupage - if you want to decorate the cast but don't want to go to the trouble of smoothing everything out first, then just grab some Modge Podge and do a decoupage (you may need to prime it first though).  You can decoupage it with xeroxed pictures of your baby (I did that for my sisters cast).  You can cut out pictures, designs, words or anything.  You can glue on beads, or any type of bling or even fabric.  OR you could paint it and then decoupage pictures or words or add bling.
  • Here is a site with lots of pictures and ideas of ways to decorate your cast (they also sell belly casting kits) Proud Body Pregnancy Art (pan down a bit for pictures)

 Thrace (and Ever) trying to nurse on his cast

 I really encourage everyone to make a belly cast if possible.  There is nothing more beautiful than a pregnant belly full of life!  If you are shy you can do it with your husband in the privacy of your home and it can be a private memento just for you.  Or you can proudly display it as the beautiful, miraculous work of art that it is!! 



 The kids with their casts, Xian, Piper, Arah, Ever and Thrace


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