tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post1458890653965494527..comments2023-10-20T12:25:07.716-04:00Comments on Entergently: A magic 'formula' for easier parenting??Entergentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09667630916580441817noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-1130367364450946472009-09-07T13:22:48.161-04:002009-09-07T13:22:48.161-04:00Great post Kelley. I'm looking forward to expe...Great post Kelley. I'm looking forward to experiencing this with my little one. Love ya sis ~ KristiKozyWarehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09619497977249912384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-68300916927462179232009-09-08T23:11:51.241-04:002009-09-08T23:11:51.241-04:00Brilliant!!! If only there were more voices like y...Brilliant!!! If only there were more voices like yours to support us as parents -- mothers and fathers. It is not easy, but it is the most magical journey to watch our little angels grow. And you are right... sleep comes as it comes in its own time, and these early days pass so quickly in the grand scheme of life. Thanks for your post... as I enter a stage of less sleep with my second baby (just about to turn 7-months) it was wonderful reminder to read your words!!JP Stories in Bogotáhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15135146916741356692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-79727592297367371572009-09-09T09:16:03.373-04:002009-09-09T09:16:03.373-04:00GREAT post!! Seriously, I needed to read this!!An...GREAT post!! Seriously, I needed to read this!!<br><br>And I agree, that formula is appalling. And just plain gross-sounding. Thickens in your tummy?!? Yuck.Melody Strayerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00942098306539357507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-29977661150022808072009-09-10T16:21:24.474-04:002009-09-10T16:21:24.474-04:00I agree with most of your post, but I have to comm...I agree with most of your post, but I have to comment on the part about sleep training. I co-sleep with my 9 month old. I exclusively breast-fed until he started solids. I cannot count the number of times I have been up in the night with him, because he likes to wake up and SCREAM his head off, no matter how many times I nurse him. There's nothing wrong with him, he's just a very intense baby who fights sleep like crazy. After 9 months of spending several hours each day trying to get him to sleep (I have spent at least a month of his life bouncing him to sleep!), only to have him take a 30 minute nap and wake up crabby and then wanting to sleep again less than 2 hours later, we finally did some sleep training (and no it did not involve CIO). Now he goes to sleep so much easier (most of the time!). I can actually put him down once he's asleep, and when he wakes up after 30 minutes I can often get him back to sleep so he's not exhausted all day long. I'm not as frazzled, and I actually have some extra energy to spare for my older daughter, husband, and house instead of being so exhausted from fighting him to sleep that I don't want to do anything else.<br><br>I just wanted to give a little different (but non-mainstream) perspective on sleep training. For us it was essential. It wouldn't have worked when he was a few months old, and I don't hold out any hopes of him sleeping through the night any time soon, but sleep training has made our family life a little more peaceful...I don't know if we would have made it if we'd continued waiting for him to "grow into" better sleep habits.caedmynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13490554639637232546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-960112630829748832009-09-10T23:46:04.065-04:002009-09-10T23:46:04.065-04:00Thanks for the kind words guys!Hey Caedmyn,Thanks ...Thanks for the kind words guys!<br><br>Hey Caedmyn,<br>Thanks for writing!! You make a great point and are absolutely right!! There are ALWAYS exceptions to the rule, with everything. I have even experienced some of them (like the fact that despite nursing on demand, no supplements, or paci's, co-sleeping, napping with baby etc. I have gotten AF back as early as 10 wks!! What is up with that??). I can say that birth is safe, because for the most part it is, but there are rare times when it isn't safe and we need intervention (placenta previa, cord prolapse, Pre-E etc). Same goes for our kids. They are all different, and while I think that for most of them, things like co-sleeping, nursing, being worn, being held etc. just come natural, I know that there are some babies that are just an exception. Yes, I have heard from people whose babies dislike co-sleeping and being worn (shocking I know, LOL!!). There are also babies who have issues like reflux or colic that require special attention, and babies who have trouble nursing for one reason or another. But for the most part, I think the largest majority of new moms have babies who don't need training. But regardless, they are so concerned with training them to sleep because of advice from well meaning relatives, or their dr, or some book. I often think that they are stressing over nothing and if they just let their baby lead the way with no expectations, everyone would be happier in the end. And those are the people I am hoping to encourage.<br><br>So glad you found a way to get your son to sleep! It sounds like he was very unhappy and in turn it made everyone unhappy. By gently (no CIO) training him you were following his lead, because he was letting you know that he needed more help, which you gave him!! <br>What did you use? I have the No Cry Sleep Solution and from skimming it it seems pretty good, I just have never felt that we needed it so far. If I needed help getting them to sleep that is one thing, but so far I am fine with them waking at night to nurse and I nurse them down for bed and naps till they are 3-4 (meaning I am usually nursing 2 down for sleep and when I am pg with another baby the older one is usually fine to go to sleep without nursing when the baby comes). <br>I also think that you balance your child's needs with what you think you can physically do and maintain your sanity, LOL! No one should end up resenting their child because they are extending themselves far beyond their limits, that isn't good for either mom or baby.Kelleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09667630916580441817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-14014667996721752722009-09-11T16:31:01.231-04:002009-09-11T16:31:01.231-04:00Hey Kelley - heard you were blogging; LOVING what ...Hey Kelley - heard you were blogging; LOVING what I've had chance to read so far; oh and BTW my Kozy is my all time favourite sling, they are amazing!!<br><br>This post is fantastic, I haven't heard of that formula in the UK but I'm sure it won't be long till it's here LOL! I also co-sleep and breastfeed (baby-led) and life is peaceful. Well done for speaking out - we need more (loud) voices like this to help mothers embrace their wonderful job as Mama's.<br><br>Refreshing to read, thank you...Mmmm, now I think I need to shop for another Kozy, my hubby keeps using the one we have, everyone should have two right?!! :)Leahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-52881295871483254772009-09-28T11:08:11.381-04:002009-09-28T11:08:11.381-04:00Ugh, wow. I agree! That formula is pretty frustr...Ugh, wow. I agree! That formula is pretty frustrating. Another mainstream item "teaching" moms misleading things. <br><br>"Is he sleeping through the night yet?" is also one of the most frequent questions I get asked with our first, now 7 months old. My inlaws have been trying to convince us to use baby cereal since he was a week old to supposedly "make him sleep better." Nooo thanks!<br><br><br>Side note... we've been doing baby led weaning since 6months. I tried to give DS some actual pureed baby food the other day at almost 7 months; he was not interested AT ALL. I don't know why people feel it is so necessary to push it! He didn't want it, and does better shoving things in his mouth by himself (and it's 'real' food).<br><br>Anyways...<br>You put it into words so well! I'm terrible at describing my feelings or WHY I try to do things a certain way. I completely agree with you about how babies simply need more attention and aren't meant to be independant.Tandy and Jeffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11181362205280686557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-47475876566918571932009-10-01T14:41:51.648-04:002009-10-01T14:41:51.648-04:00A friend linked to this post on Facebook. That for...A friend linked to this post on Facebook. That formula makes me cringe! I am glad you're speaking up about it. Great post!Kathleenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17986911650037247207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-51876827804970689532009-12-14T10:38:35.603-05:002009-12-14T10:38:35.603-05:00Great Post! I am definelty going to pass this alo...Great Post! I am definelty going to pass this along. I haven't heard of this formula, I mean to me all of its nasty and I would rather buy from a milk bank before ever giving my children this ____.Tracynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-86130917979337727142010-01-22T13:44:34.057-05:002010-01-22T13:44:34.057-05:00We have this kind of formula in the UK - fortunate...We have this kind of formula in the UK - fortunately it is only allowed to be labelled as for babies over 6 months which is some small mercy, but one company which makes the "goodnight milk" also makes baby foods, so they have a "weaning pack" available to buy on their website (In the UK weaning refers to starting solids, not ending nursing) - and they recommend this as "An ideal gift for a new mum" - with sachets of the goodnight milk inside. Grrrrrr. If that isn't the most underhand marketing... It makes me so mad!rumantichttp://rumantic.livejournal.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-904923467770438804.post-85792737498046782822011-01-08T00:52:51.682-05:002011-01-08T00:52:51.682-05:00I just wanted to thank you for being so outspoken ...I just wanted to thank you for being so outspoken about breastfeeding!! When I got pregnant with my first child I knew I wanted to do it. I had read enough to know it could be frustrating and I was committed! When our son was born I have to say I was not a natural :-) but neither was he!<br>The first night we had him home he just cried and cried but it wasn't 'time' to feed him. Well I broke the supposed schedule rule and guess what :-) he stopped crying and that is when I threw schedules out the window and nursed anytime he cried. And he'd let me know if he wasn't interested.<br>Anyway, I also nursed #2 (despite a pediatrician suggesting we suppliment...it almost cost me that precious experience with our daughter)and just had #3 and of course breastfeed her! #3 has reflux and cries alot (alot) but most times she is happy while breastfeeding so she nurses a large portion of the day. While it can be frustrating, I just thank God that he gave her to me so she will feel comforted and loved...not just left to cry alone.<br><br>I've always felt that God gave me my instinct to breastfeed when my baby cries not to mention all the other instincts that we are given as mothers.<br><br>I really enjoy your outlook on raising kids and me and my husband feel the same in many of those areas. Nice to know we're not alone! <br><br>Also, just ordered a Kozy and am SO excited to start babywearing!! I love the idea of never having to put my baby down! I always feel so awful when I have to do things for the other kids and she's crying but I need BOTH hands :-)Jackie's Little Worldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05604218048290005041noreply@blogger.com